BGR General Discussion

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hmmm..
guys scare of commitment??
pls lar..
aiyo..
lynne..
scare commitment for wat..
ok lar..
juz tel u a thing lar..
i got alot of frens do lik su-ann say..
the wat testing water thing
haha..
but seriously..
wat is the reason they wan to do??
hmmm..
got a bit berkenaan wit gals 1 u knw??

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tats good lynne..
all sort of relattionship u got stil can talk..(juz for those got couple de ah)
wakaka..
but u muz knw..
sum ppl..
they getting hurt by a guy o a gal..
haha..
u stil think they can talk??
i mean..
juz lik a couple tat luv each othe suddenly broke up...
the person tat has been dump by the other 1..
its hard to diterima rite???
so i dun think they wil find each othe anymore lor..
rite??



time can heal??
dis is depends on all condition ...
haha..
u rite..
but..
u sure most of us can 4get all the things about the person..
i mean..
after a long relationship has been ended..
u sure u can forget.
everything??
those thing juz lik scars in our heart..
haha...
ok..
lik u say lynne
sum wil disappear in numbers of days..
others wil last half our lives...
so in the anothe half of ur lives..
u wil stil rmb those tat not yet been 4get 1 rite....
if u say lik tat rite..
is it mean u nid to spend half of ur life to heal urself and forget it??
think bout tat..

The testing water thingy...guyz fool with girls heart or they're just playful...Or i don't know....maybe they expecting something from the girls....

And i think what lynne is trying to say is Time can sometimes heal. Sometimes not. Sure...it takes time after a couple broke up to get back together as friends...IT TAKES TIME.

Anywyz...it's still everybody's experiences...no use fighting you're right about it;)

*peace out.

no one's fighting.. this is the only discussion board that's actually no terpesong posts one..

Qing, you never can forget totally.. It's impossible.. but to get over it like, it doesnt hurt anymore or it doesn't matter anymore..
Lets say you go play futsal and your.. finger ter fracture (im using selwyn's experience) obviously you can't forget it even after it healed.. but you can get over it and it wont matter anymore.. and you still can go back to to futsal court and play the day the doctor say you can go back. right? it's KINDA the same thing lor.. you never totally forget..

And as for the getting hurt thing.. yea la.. it depends... that's why if it's a mutual agreement sure can friends sumore one.. if the guy or girl randomly dumps you out of the blue and he really really hurt you.. then yea la.. how to still be friends.. my opinion.. i'd feel like slapping the fella la.. -- not that i don't already slap you guys on the back for fun in church! -- back to the point.. so yea.. like that la..

tats different..
haha.
seriously..
tat type of hurt and the hurt is not the same ok..
juz lik u say..
injury..
can heal 1..
nid time..
aiyo..
but get over..
haha..
for me tats a hard task..
to get over is lik 4get ppl u knw..
haha..
if u always communicate..
hw can..
haha.
tats 4 me lar..
but u all i think can lar.
haha..

yea.
forget everything is imposible.
haha..
dis i oso knw..
so..
if u suddenly think back about the pass..
the feeling wil come back rite..
although the feeling different wit the time u do tat ting lar..
hmm...


haha..
so dis reli depands lar..
haha..
every1 opinion bout dis is different..
juz lik my opinion bout most of the guys testing gal thing..
is different wit ur opinion..


haha..
dis reli is a nice topic to discuss lar..
haha..
i lik it reli much..
keep it up.
.wakaka..
dun end..
i luv dis topic..

wah this topic is getting serious....well ...yeah so true gal will think ahead to want to plan a future wid
that special someone...comittement very important in a relationship.....

blur.u all type so much 'lan' to read aradi.hahaha.

so..
if u suddenly think back about the pass..
the feeling wil come back rite..
although the feeling different wit the time u do tat ting lar..
hmm...

it's not like that lo..
that's why i said.. it's as if it doesn't matter anymore.. it's like.. what's done is done.. i dont care anymore.. I've got things more important in my life now.. it doesnt hurt the way it does when you first end the relationship..

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haha..
nop..
juz not lik wat done is done u knw..
sumtin more special..
the feeling..
very weird 1..

yea la.. got that other feeling..
but still.. you dont feel angry or sad or jealous anymore..

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yea..
jealous for wat ah..
seriously..
tats wat u hv done..
wakkaa.
nth to jealous lar..

ahah yeah right...dun tell me if u see ur gf toking wwith another guys u wont be jeolous...laughing all...huhu...sure o not??most guys get jeolous like thta n gurls too heheh..........

I am vry jealous seriously...will feel lk cursing d guy...ahha
But wat 2 do...but trust ur gf cn d....

jian wrote:I am vry jealous seriously...will feel lk cursing d guy...ahha
But wat 2 do...but trust ur gf cn d....

I dont think thts call Love lo....
Love is not jealousy..

whoaaaaaaaaaa...you guys sound so experienced! =P

wow.. i'm kinda impressed n proud of u all... sound so mature and all tat i actually nonid to comment... =) *hugs*

but u know guys... there are no black n white when it comes to BGR. no set of guidelines. I wish there were cos then we'd all know wat to do and how rite? in fact sometimes i think arrange marriages aint tat bad a thing... LOL if u think bout it ... ive actually got a list of reasons why.

anyway qing when they say time can heal it doesnt mean make u forget. like lynne said.. to be able to just accept and move on. tats wat it means. and yes it will take yeaaaarrrssssss....... for example i totally remember everything good and bad with my ex and i mean like everything. but i'm know able to say it was part of life, was a good experience, i can sit and talk n laugh with him bout last time.

and u haf to take active steps towards it. we haf to be proactive. its true bout anything else. there are many ways to do this.

guys and commitment issues? doesnt apply to everyone la. movies like to generalise... but it is true tat commitment has different degrees at age 15, 25, 35....

but u know. it takes two to clap. dont put blames. never say never. always lean on the God who cares and knows all your sorrows. look within yourself and see what you can learn or how you can grow from it.

joel,i bet u will get jealous aso if u c ur gf vry close wif a guy...
no doubt bout dat

wah..i yesterday only found out tis fun topic...hope it won't b too late to respond..HEHE!!

Sometime v will feel jealous when some1 close to the person u like is bcoz v still haven't get into the relationship & i still dunno wat the person think of another person...so mayb tat is y sometime we will feel jealous about tat lo...Do u guy get wat i mean? not tat love won't be got the jealous feeling lo...tat is wat i think la.... coz mayb the jealous appear when v can't feel security with tat person....scare the person will let other person taken away? Am i talking wat u mean jian?

In short we call that insecurity + jealousy?
maybe...

Yea lorr..
Actually the jealousy will only come about if you're not secure about your gf or bf.. Then you dunno if he or she really really likes you and you not sure whether he or she likes that other person so you tend to get jealous especially if they seem like they're having so much fun.. right?

guess what? I even feel that with my FRIENDS.. just friends you know.. Hmmm.. but that's out of topic..

and jo, this is more of a discussion.. not experience based story telling.. =)

Hmmm.. how nice if there were black and white.. then you know what you're doing wrong or right.. Ta jie, list out the arrange marriage thing.. should be interesting..

erm...yeah mayb la....but sumtime when u dun trust ur gf/bf also will appear la...tat wan really not call love..coz if u love tat person u should trust tat person 100%...agree?

true.. Agape love.. i guess that's one kind of love that really realy hard to achieve.. it's hard to trust humans.. in general.. =/

Hahaha.So many ppl can give so many advises.So good.Can get tips from this forum...hahaha.Yea,God's love is unmatchable.His Love is the only one that's forever.Amen to that.

hmmm..
i am lost.
haha..
1 day nvr come only..
wa..
so many post liao..
nid refer back .
then only continue talk bout dis..
wakaka

yeah jealous rightt....ahaha......

wah...so proud of u lari....u din r not tat blur still know wat is going on...HAHA!! ur virus is getting less ady...

so wat u think about jealous?

ahaha..this topic is gettin deeper & deeper each day

ya deeper and more terpesong!!!

actually.. it wasn't terpesong untill qing mentioned that he blur already... hmmm...
people dont cemar this topic.. it's very much un terpesong..

Hahaha.From pure to tercemar.What is this.JC,u so long no on9 sian liaw.haha.

Agree love is not jealous and we should not b jealous...
trust d 1u love 100%...
tehre are 7 Conviction needed in a relationship

Sorry i don't get you...
7 convictions?

yeap,i heard d pastor frm great tiding's church(KL)said during a wedding

hmm...yea k the virus in me is less dy...hehe.....its so not terpesong k.....

share what you got jian!

ya.. wat 7 conviction? wat is it mean?